The Most Memorable Conversation

I’ve had so many interesting conversations with men, married men, single men, gay men, heterosexual men…etc and the most memorable conversation was with this one married man. He told me in few words as a Christian you will never meet someone who is on the same level of spiritual maturity as you are. Here’s some context, he started the conversation out by asking my age and then complimenting me. He was surprised when I told him my age, but most are. He then starts asking me a few personal questions ( which I don’t really mind, because I’m a transparent person - need be basis though), so he then says can you guess my age, I guessed his age. He tried to play it off and say he’s younger when he in fact looked his age (this matters trust me). After the whole age thing we get on the subject of Christians and not really being able to find a person who is essentially equally yoked. He got the right woman, because I love talking about my Lord and Savior and relationships… my two favorite topics, among other things but this conversation had me going. So, he says, “you’ll never truly find someone who is equally yoked” I of course disagreed because why would the Bible say to not be unequally yoked if one wouldn’t be able to find someone on the same level as them. That’s what I told him. He then goes on to talk about younger women (now I am a few years younger than him) and how their standards are and all this extra stuff leading into infidelity.

Speaks on the fact that there are many (young ) women who would prefer to be with a married man than to be with a single man. 😳😳. Of course I was shocked, because what? I immediately began thinking who does this man hang around. I said, “I have to disagree, because speaking for myself I don’t like to share and I’m not choosing to be a side piece”. Of course he disagreed! He says, “women prefer men who have it together and don’t mind being a mistress” 😑I said, “the women I know ain’t going for that.” (We are 80s babies).  It may be true that most mature women prefer a man who is well put together in every aspect, not perfect, but has his life together. Nothing wrong with wanting someone who is mature and about their business. He claims many young woman (early 20s - early 30s) are ok with this lifestyle, being a mistress, and though that might be true, as a man claiming to be a believer in Jesus Christ it doesn’t make it right nor does this conversation feel right. Now had he started the conversation with some women then id agree that some women are who are not God fearing would not mind that lifestyle because I cannot see a true woman of God willing to be a mistress 😑. Then he speaks on how he would never leave his wife if he was in fact doing these things (cheating on his wife) and me being me asked, why would you dare 🤦🏾‍♀️ stay married to your wife and you step out on her?!? 🤔 Why is this even an option for you?? Why are we even having this conversation? Now, he did say that she (being his wife) has been with him when he had nothing and that was a reason why he wouldn’t divorce her. It’s none of my business, really a rhetorical question wasn’t looking for an answer just wanted him to think about what he was saying as a married man. He also told me that ALL men cheat. Alll. 😑🙄 then the conversation went a little weird. Speaking on infidelity still, he poses a scenario basically how he wouldn’t be mad if he learned of the woman he’d been cheating on his wife with came out and told him that she is in fact a he, he’d be okay with that but he wouldn’t be too happy if the woman he was cheating on his wife with came out and said that she’s pregnant. His reason for this thought process was bringing a baby into this world outside of his marriage would be too much pain on his wife as if cheating alone isn’t hurtful. 🙃 He wouldn’t want to bring a baby outside of his marriage but was okay with even the idea of cheating on his wife and okay with her being trans 😑. Though that man claimed to be a believer in Jesus Christ there were just a few things that were distasteful and disturbing to say the least. We all fall short of His glory, but we are not to stay down when we fall. We have to pick up our Cross daily, die to self/flesh DAILY, this walk with God is not something where you get saved and that’s it, it’s relationship with Him. The Vine.

I am not holding anyone’s hand while I say this, GIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE LORD AND DO IT SWIFTLY! REPENT AND SURRENDER this mindset is wild. It’s not Godly at all! Hurt people hurt people, this man has other deeply rooted issues that ONLY the Lord Jesus Christ can heal and set him free. This man claimed to be a believer. That verse that says, “you will know them by their fruit” it’s not just talking about false prophets. Know who labor among you. You can’t do business with everyone and all money ain’t good money. If you will cheat on your wife it says a lot about your character. How do I know if you’re honest in business deals. Nope. Now to take it back to the “you will never meet someone who is on the same spiritual maturity level” comment, I want to submit this for your consideration, what makes you think that you’ll never be able to find one who is comparable? When God created Eve He said she was COMPARABLE, Eve was Adam’s HELPMATE, COMPARABLE TO HIM, suitable to him. In the book of Genesis chapter 2, I implore you to read it.

Now why do I share this conversation, because I want to help someone who may not know that there are men who prey upon young women thinking that they are only useful for sex or to just be used for whatever gain they want to get from young women. Now one may be reading this and thinking to themselves, “well duh! Who doesn’t know that older men prey on younger women”, this isn’t for you. I’m speaking to people who are young, naive and simply just unaware and wasn’t taught these things. Unfortunately, many of us grew up not knowing how some men can be and were preyed upon due to that. Nothing is new under the sun. There are men who solely choose women that are in their early 20s to date or marry simply for control and manipulation. Mold them into who they want them to be rather than allowing that woman to become who God has called her to be. Stay very far away from people like that. No, this is not ONLY older men doing this, some men in general have done this, but for the sake of this conversation, older men choose younger women for reasons as stated before.

A true man of God is not seeking to manipulate women for gain or control. A true man of God will know how to lead, provide and protect that woman and he would not lead her to sin. So, for all my ladies, young and old, if you have not met your Kingdom spouse yet, and have a desire to, allow the Lord to work on you while He continues to work on him. Take this time while you are single to focus on what it is that God has told you to focus on and make sure to stay connected to the Vine. Allow the Holy Spirit to lead you and ask God for discernment. I want to leave you with this, all men are not the same, there are great men of God out here who truly are men of God. Make sure if you’re a parent that you are informing your children of these things especially girl moms and dads as they get older. For the boy moms and dads, make sure that you are raising your young men to be men of God and to be respectful. A lot of things that we see now-a-days started in the home. We train our children up in the way that they should go and they will not depart from it. Intercede for your children and love on them!

Until next time, love you guys! ❤️